Iiris, 26
“I’m wearing my Boy George -84 hair accessory, a chantarell coat, cat hair trousers and blue shoes which were meant to be my sports shoes but I never started doing the sports.”
25 April 2012, Aleksanterinkatu
Let this post signify the first time that I saw athletic shoes with a fashiony outfit and did not hate it. Also, how do you pronounce this name? What does “Iiris” sound like? I have a professional interest in the answer to this question.
From an early age, boys are fitted with emotional straight-jackets tailored by a restricted code of behavior that falsely defines masculinity. In the context of “stop crying,” “stop those emotions,” and “don’t be a sissy,” we define what it means to “Be a Man!” Adherence to this “boy code” leaves many men dissociated from their feelings and incapable of accessing, naming, sharing, or accepting many of their emotions. When men don’t understand their own emotions it becomes impossible to understand the feelings of another. This creates an “empathy-deficit disorder” that is foundational to America’s epidemic of bullying, dating abuse and gender violence. Boys are taught to be tough, independent, distrusting of other males, and at all cost to avoid anything considered feminine for fear of being associated with women. This leads many men to renounce their common humanity with women so as to experience an emotional disconnect from them. Women often become objects, used to either validate masculine insecurity or satisfy physical needs. When the validation and satisfaction ends, or is infused with anger, control or alcohol, gender violence is often the result.
Joe Ehrmann, former NFL player, from “Men Can Stop Rape” (via epharoe)
Adherence to this “boy code” leaves many men dissociated from their feelings and incapable of accessing, naming, sharing, or accepting many of their emotions. When [people] don’t understand their own emotions it becomes impossible to understand the feelings of another. This creates an “empathy-deficit disorder” that is foundational to America’s epidemic of bullying, dating abuse and gender violence.
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I have a huge crush on life when people within the football machine get critical about important shit like this.
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![[lady crouches awkwardly on office chair in front of webcam. outfit as described below]
black cabled tights
rust coloured corduroy miniskirt (old navy!)
black steelers t-shirt, borrowed from boyfriend
black cardigan, gift from mom
same huge gold earrings as th’other day
new mascara
bringing to superbowl party: roasted chickpeas, black bean dip w/ corn and lime, baked avocado fries, blue corn chips. Vegan femme feminist football ftw.](http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lg7qfsXoBk1qf07wao1_500.jpg)
[lady crouches awkwardly on office chair in front of webcam. outfit as described below]
black cabled tights
rust coloured corduroy miniskirt (old navy!)
black steelers t-shirt, borrowed from boyfriend
black cardigan, gift from mom
same huge gold earrings as th’other day
new mascara
bringing to superbowl party: roasted chickpeas, black bean dip w/ corn and lime, baked avocado fries, blue corn chips. Vegan femme feminist football ftw.
Alyssa Rosenberg at The Atlantic
Players on both teams—Ben Roethlisberger of the Steelers and Green Bay’s Brad Jones, Clay Matthews, Josh Sitton, Khalil Jones, Korey Hall, Matt Flynn, and Brandon Underwood—have all had serious sexual assault allegations made against them recently (the most recent allegations against Roethlisberger were dropped because the victim didn’t want to go through a trial; Jones, Matthews, Sitton, Jones, Hall, and Flynn were cleared; Underwood remains under investigation). As a result, I’m trying to figure out who I want to lose less: the quarterback around whom there seems to be a perpetual fug of ugly sexual behavior towards women, or a player who may have assaulted two women at a single party.
And having to prove ourselves isn’t the worst of our problems. I found reading Gabriel Sherman’s GQ profileof Deadspin editor A.J. Daulerio sickening, in part because of one particular incident described in the article: It took Daulerio—who runs what is supposed to be a sports site—days to recognize that perhaps it was unwise to run a video of an extremely intoxicated young woman potentially being raped in a stadium bathroom. An editorial approach like that, if that’s even what Daulerio’s decision-making process in that case can be called, violently excises women from the potential Deadspin audience. And it’s of a piece with ugly behavior like Gate D at Giants Stadium during Jets games, where male fans try to harass women into taking off their tops.
It’s not that I walk around at games with Mace in my purse, or that I think that all sports reporters are profiting off the sexual humiliation of women. But it seems to me there’s something ugly in mainstream American sports and in mainstream American sports fandom, when one class of fans isn’t taken particularly seriously, and in the wrong situation can be seriously at risk.
This whole time I’ve had gripes about how female sports fans are not taken seriously, and serious qualms about the acceptability of rape, rape culture, and sexual assault in sports, but somehow it never dawned on me that the two are creepily interrelated.